The 7 Commandments of Christian Marriage
The following are the biblical rules for Christian marriage:
I believe that the faithful preaching of the Word, general pastoring and faithful Christian upbringing are the best preparation for marriage. Marriage is between one man and one woman. It is intended for the benefit of both husband and wife and is a sign of God's covenant relationship with them. Marriage is a sacred covenant between two people and is an intimate relationship between husband and wife. It is a lifelong commitment, a covenant of love, of faithfulness, of sacrifice, of purity and a covenant of grace.
Below are 7 Marriage Commandments that must be observed.
1. Serve God together and commit to one another deeply.
A Christian marriage is about mutual respect and submission. Ephesians 5:21 commands couples to submit to one another out of reverence to Christ. A halfhearted commitment in marriage will not do, you have to be all in, each willing to surrender all to the other person. Don’t worship one another. Only the Lord is worthy of your praise and worship. Let Him take the first place in your life all shall be well with you and your marriage. So, serve your spouse Jesus style more and more everyday, strive to be more of a giver the taker in the relationship and you will be the happier for it.
2. Love totally and completely.
Love with every fibre of your being without any conditions attached, not the I love you if you love me or as much as you love me, no, no, no, you have to love regardless. That is the command. You must love like Jesus love the Church, even your enemies. And this should be even more evident within your marriage. Love your spouse along with his/her flaws that you can see better than anyone else. Always, let your love be evident in the way you relate and communicate with your spouse. This is a recipe for happy and enjoyable marriage.
3. Show mutual respect for one another.
No one wants to be disrespected. Couples must allow the juice of respect flows between them without any pre-conditions; this should not be a problem at all where love exists. Respect is important for both spouses. Most people grant respect only when certain conditions are met before granting respect to others. This is not right as it does not inspire selflessness from the other person because you are only trading something for something and that is not a genuine respect. We all need someone who believes in us even when we don’t believe in ourselves. That’s the grace of respect. When we feel respected we will work harder to keep that respect.
4. You must make your marriage bed undefiled. A no go area for others.
“Let not man put asunder” is not just a
good King James Version wedding line. It’s God’s desire for a marriage. Couples
who want their marriage to last any meddling in their relationship by anyone,
not parents, in-laws or even children to
get in the way of building a healthy married life. This may sound hash but many
marriages have been ruined because the children came first or the in-laws are interfering.
Many marriages have been killed by friends or sometimes co-workers and other
well meaning people who had little regard for the sanctity of the marriage, and
so they built a wedge between the couple. As hard as it can be sometimes, Couples
must work harder in marriage to keep the intruders out. That is the commandment
5. You must invest more than feelings and emotion in your marriage.
The scriptures tells us to renew of our mind (Romans 12:2, for example). Our mind is more reliable than emotions. You may not always feel as in love as you did the day you married. All marriages will eventually be visited by trials of one nature or another. But the Strong commitment of the couples to the marriage and not just their emotions will see them through. And when that’s true for both parties, feelings almost always reciprocate and grow over time. As true and necessary as this is, great marriage partners continue to renew one another, they continue to practice dating one another, fostering the romantic feelings that everyone craves in a relationship.
6. Consider the interest of your spouse's interest ahead of yours.
Putting the interest of our spouses first is part of our marriage covenant. It is very much on our to do list in marriage. Over the years, as couples get comfortable with one another, some couples become very selfish with their individual time. Sometimes, for example, one spouse pursues a hobby that excludes the other one, and more and more time is committed to that hobby. The other spouse begins to feel neglected. It may be allocation of time, in actions or the words used to communicate, but sometimes a spouse can make the other spouse feel they are no longer valuable to them. Spend as much time of the day as is possible together in the public, family and private exercises of worship is also vital. Talk together of the things of God and teach one another.
7. Remember to be the other half of each another.
The scripture says two to become one flesh (Ephesians 5). Cherish one another and banish impure thoughts of others. The command that our individual flesh be melded into the image of Christ. It’s a command we obey in process. We are saints still under construction. We still sin. And that process continues until Christ returns. So it is in a marriage. We never completely “get there,” but we set such a high standard for our marriage that we continue to press towards the goal. Remember that the marriage bed is pure (Heb. 13:4) and enjoy it together. A healthy marriage is a safe marriage.
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